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Case in point, both of my Submissives have been with me well over 5 years. Most people I’ve met in the BDSM community are with their partners for years. How many times in the Virtual World as an example do you see people partnered/unpartnered several times in a short period. In all the years I’ve been involved in the community, I’ve found that BDSM’ers tend to have longer lasting and deeper relationships than most married couples in fact. It is unfortunate that the BDSM community continues to have this stigma attached to it that the people involved are somehow perverted or sexually deviant simply because they choose to address their partners as Dominant or Submissive. In some cases the collar isn’t even a collar but some other discreet object worn as a reminder that you have a commitment to your Dominant. The collar that a Submissive wears is no different than a ring on the finger of a married couple.
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Yet you don’t see them condemned for their lifestyle choice. Not too unlike people in a standard married relationship playing “bedroom bondage” games or playing with sex toys. If the parties involved choose to go that route, that’s a decision they BOTH make. attached to it, it doesn’t necessarily mean any of that is part of the BDSM lifestyle on a whole. That would be illogical and nobody can live that kind of lifestyle.īDSM although it has many factions of bondage, etc. That doesn’t mean people are beat, whipped, chained, etc. The difference is that the D/s partners put a label on their positions. It isn’t too unlike “who wears the pants in the family” in a standard married relationship. Simply put… one person is the Dominant and one person is the Submissive. In the primary case of most people who participate in the BDSM lifestyle, they participate in D/s which means Dominant – Submissive.
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BDSM is a “lifestyle” just like any other alternative lifestyle. You’ll find there is nothing “Adult” or “Offensive” in a sexual nature at all in it.įor those people who watch too many movies, and read too many dime novels, BDSM isn’t 50 shades of Grey, nor is it Story of “O”. Again, I can’t help but wonder if this article was about a TG, Lesbian, or Gay grid and what it has to offer for that community if it would have received the same response? Anyone who is interested in the article is more than welcome to request it from us. However because the letters BDSM were prominent in the article, the article has no place in the “family” magazine. The article in question had NO sexual overtones, photos, etc. We received our reply from Sunbeam Magic the editor of HG Vision’s Magazine today – “I regret to inform you this, but the Vision’z Staff Team voted NO on accepting your article, citing HG VISIONZ is more of a family magazine and they thought the BDSM theme does not fit in with our format.” Again, there’s that uninformed bigotry in action. I’d like to site another example… Recently, one of the members of HG Vision’s Magazine made a request that we create an article regarding the BDSM themed regions on Littlefield Grid. To assume or insinuate that a group of people has low self esteem because they choose to have an alternative lifestyle is nothing short of bigotry. Almost immediately the ugly bigotry and prejudice crept in with a comment by one of the users named 1derworld – “Who would of thunk low self esteem and BDSM would be the large population in opensims :(” Now I have to wonder if Littlefield was a Gay / Lesbian or Transgender grid if the same type of remark would have been forthcoming. Just recently Littlefield which has a heavy BDSM orientated grid was listed on HG Business for leading in the Opensimulator grid survey. For several years we in the BDSM community have hidden behind shadows because of people’s narrow minded prejudice against the BDSM lifestyle.